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KHI NGƯỜI KHÁC LỢI DỤNG BẠN

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Khi người khác cố ý muốn lợi dụng bạn vì một mục tiêu nào đó của họ, trong hoàn cảnh như thế, trước tiên bạn cần phải hiểu rằng mọi người cũng là loài người và họ có quyền được hưởng niềm hạnh phúc. Với lòng ngưỡng mộ và lòng từ bi dành cho họ, bạn có thể hành xử tùy theo hoàn cảnh mà họ tạo ra. Điều này có nghĩa là bạn có quyền phản ứng mạnh mẽ nếu cần thiết nhưng bạn đừng bao giờ đánh mất lòng từ bi trong tim mình. Thực ra, lòng từ bi là cách duy nhất có thể giúp ích cho bạn trong những hoàn cảnh như thế, vì tức giận trong trường hợp này chỉ đóng vai trò là rào cản gây trở ngại cho những hành vi tích cực và đồng thời tạo thêm nhiều rắc rối hơn nữa. Thoạt tiên bạn khó có thể duy trì được lòng từ bi dành cho một người nào đó đang thể hiện khả năng gây hại cho bạn, nhưng nếu bạn cố gắng lặp đi lặp lại, bạn sẽ tìm được cách hành xử hợp lý mà không đánh mất lòng từ bi và lòng yêu thương trong tim mình.

Cũng giống như mối quan hệ giữa cha mẹ và con cái vậy. Đôi khi con cái cũng tỏ ra bướng bĩnh và ngỗ nghịch và để ngăn cản thái độ đó của con cái mình, người cha hoặc người mẹ hành xử - tùy theo từng hoàn cảnh – bằng những lời nói cứng rắn hoặc có thể xử phạt đứa trẻ nhưng trong khi hành xử như thế thì họ vẫn không đánh mất lòng yêu thương của mình dành cho đứa trẻ đó. Đó chính là cách hành xử hợp lý nhất trong trường hợp này.

Trích @: http://www.thuvienhoasen.org/baybuocyeuthuong-dalailama.htm#06

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Tác giả : Đức Đạt Lai Lạt Ma
Biên dịch: Lê Tuyên - Hiệu đính: Lê Gia

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